Friday, December 18, 2009
A Little Embarassing, But Funny
Kids . . . . . .
Oh well, I'm pregnant and my body is going through alot of changes and yes, I'm gaining weight. My doctor says my weight gain has been right on. Thing is, I was gaining weight BEFORE I got pregnant, so . . . . . . anyway, right now I have absolutely no energy to do anything, much less exercise. I just can't help it, no matter how much sleep I get, it doesn't help.
I read in an article somewhere, that a pregnant woman's body at rest, is working at the equivalent of someone who is climbing a mountain. Now I don't know if that's South Mountain, or Mount Everest, but regardless, my body is working over-time and dammit, if I'm tired, I'm tired.
Exercise can wait 'til later.
Week In And Week Out
Our Little Pnut
So he proceeds to tell me that they got my results back and that everything looked NORMAL!!!! Oh my Dear Lord, thank you!!!! But I already knew it, I knew it, I knew it, I knew God was great, and I knew He was going to give us a healthy baby girl. I knew from the very beginning, even though, I will admit, when I got the news of the screening, I got scared, I wept, I asked why? But, I guess that would be a normal reaction. I think anyone would have felt the same. But after talking with God, I felt, I knew, everything would be okay. So the counselor says at the end of the conversation, "have fun with the rest of your pregnancy." I sure will. I'll relish everything about it.
Highs and Lows
So he takes me into his office and he says to me, "Vermeer (the parent company) has said they would loan vssw (Alan's company) the $1.5 mil dollars we've been needing, but they said, the only way they'd do that, is if I resign." They wanted Alan out of his own company!!! What?? I couldn't understand how they could do that. He had gone to the parent company for some financial help and to help them re-distribute some of their machinery, and this was their solution for him and for his company--for him to resign? It just didn't make any sense, and I told Alan, I thought there was something else behind their reason for not wanting him there anymore. He was in shock and was on the verge of tears, I could tell. I didn't know what to say. It was like a death in the family, you know you should say something, but don't know quite what to say. I mean, what do you say to a man who's built up a company for 20 years, brought in all his own people to be the best the company can be, and then this? I couldn't see how Vermeer couldn't see that Arizona and Nevada have been the hardest hit in this recession and those are our two main offices. How could they want him to give all this up that he's worked so hard for?
The people that own the parent company of Vermeer are a strange breed. They work, work, work, and put lots, if not all the money they make back into the company, and they think everyone else should do the same. We aren't them, and we don't do it as much as they did, but Alan did put $1.5 mil back into his company to help sustain it for a long time. But the times we did take money out of the company, we were doing great, we were doing like, $10 mil. So taking some of the profits we earned and putting it into the house we were building wasn't such a strange thing to do at the time. But Vermeer looks at it as being irresponsible. Irresponsible? I don't think so. Alan has a Controller who oversees all the money, and he would have told Alan if it was the wrong thing to do, that's just Kyle, he is amazing at what he does. But then the economy took a nosedive and here we are. I mean, who was to know that it would have been like this? No one. And Vermeer has said to Alan, he should have known better. They aren't freakin' fortune tellers and neither are we.
So, we'll see what Vermeer ends up doing with Alan's company. I think they're up to something. Something they didn't want Alan to be a part of. Alan keeps thinking, he shouldn't have done this or that, but I tell him, he can't beat himself up about it, how was he supposed to know the very people that should have helped him, are the ones who stabbed him in the back?
So my post of all of this had to do with the high in the morning that we both had, knowing we were having a little baby girl, then at two in the afternoon, Alan's whole world had collapsed on top of his head. I felt so bad for him. I have to just keep reminding him that there's a reason for this, even though we may not know it or be able to see why, there's a reason. God has a plan for us, and it's a plan that's much better than the one we could envision for ourselves. God doesn't waste pain, I truly believe that.
Where Do Babies Come From Mom??
So everyone had left the room, and I told OD where he was conceived, he thought it was cool. He wasn't so grossed out, I don't know why. Maybe because it was about him, and and maybe because his dad isn't around. Who knows?
Telling the Kids
Joshie then proceeds to say, "I just hope it's not a little brother, we don't need another OD in the house." Darian has to second that. My poor OD, he's such an annoyance to his big brother and sister and the rest of the household at times, but he's just being OD, we couldn't live without him, and wouldn't want him any other way (at least I don't want him any other way, his brother and sister, may beg to differ.) So they talked about whether it was gonna be a boy or a girl, what they're going to do with him or her, about how old they're gonna be when the baby is in Kindergarten, graduating from high school, etc. It was cute hearing them all talk about it. I'm glad they were all so excited. I wasn't sure if Darian was all that excited a few years ago when we did the gender selection, simply because she wouldn't be the ONLY girl anymore. I think she likes being the Queen. But I know she's excited now, I can tell. Now there'll be six of us!! Wow!!
Whoa Lordy!!!
But, on a lighter note. . . . . before we had the amnio done, on the same day, they had to do an ultrasound just to get some measurements for the baby and such. And at this point I was just past my 15 week mark. So the technician is doing all the measurements and she asks if we want to know the sex of the baby, which of course, we say yes! So during this procedure I'm watching the monitor and can see all the stuff she's looking at like the heart beating, the legs, the little arms, the head, the eye sockets, the baby moving a little, it was cool. So finally she says, ' . . . . well, there's nothing between those legs, it's a girl!!' Which I tap Alan on the shoulder and say, 'I told you . . . .' He, of course cried a bit. I've been telling Alan for weeks that I knew she was a girl, from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I knew God gave us a girl, I had faith, and I was right. I went to the bathroom between them doing the ultrasound and the amnio, and when I came back, he was already texting his sister, he was so excited.
What's Going On??
A few weeks later, I get a call and I am talking to the counselor at Phoenix Perinatal, who proceeds to tell me that my screening came back high for Trisomy 18 and 13. What the hell is that you ask? That's exactly what I was thinking at the time. But all I could think was, something was going to be wrong with my baby, and I didn't know if I could handle something like that. I had never thought of having a child with disabilities of any kind, as I'm sure many people don't ever envision themselves with.
So I get off the phone with him and immediately Google these two things. If you're interested in reading about Trisomy 18, check out this link, www.chromosome18.org, and click on the conditions column. There are different forms of this disease, but they're pretty much all the same, as well as the Trisomy 13. Anyway, as I'm reading through this website, my heart is sinking lower and lower and lower and I push my laptop away from me and I just start sobbing, uncontrollably sobbing. I can't stop, I don't want to stop, I have to let it all out. My heart is racing, my nose is running, my chest is heaving and I can barely breathe, I don't care, I'm scared. No one is home with me, I'm all alone and I'm scared, but there's nothing I can do for my baby if they have this. It's not something that has been inherited by either parent, it's just something that happens during the formation of the embryo. There's no cure for it, and it's something that will affect the baby, and us, for the rest of our lives. I have to tell Alan, but I don't want to put a damper on his excitement for this baby, he's wanted this for so long and now this?? But I can't contain myself. I cry some more and then slowly start to recover from this horrible shock. Of course, all sorts of things are racing through my mind, like, what kind of mother will I be to a child like this, will I be able to love and care for my child if something is wrong with it, should I get rid of it, what will people think when they see my baby, will they think I did something wrong to make my baby be like this, what will my family think, how will my children react, how will my husband feel, why is God doing this???? And on, and on and on.
So I finally call Alan and give him the news, he doesn't really say much, but I know he knows it's pretty serious. I get off the phone and talk to God. That's all I can really do. I don't know what else TO do. I know in my heart that God wouldn't give us a baby with disabilities, He knows how much this means to Alan and to me, I know He wouldn't do this, God doesn't do this!!!! Our God is an all loving God and He loves me and Alan and WANTS us to have a beautiful, healthy baby girl, I KNOW IT, I HAVE FAITH IN HIM!!!! I don't believe in my heart anymore that my baby is going to be unhealthy, I have put all of my faith in God, all of it, every ounce that I've got. And with that . . . . . . there is Peace within me, once again, and I can move forward. All I can do is give all the Glory to Him. Thank you Lord for the Peace you instill in me, thank you for loving me, thank you for the beautiful, healthy baby that is growing in my belly, Thank You!!!
Santana In Vegas
So at the airport I start to get super nauseous and Alan has to hunt down some saltines and a 7Up, but to no avail, there is only Sprite, Yuck! Well, I gotta make due and sure enough, it's fine and goes down great with my bland saltine crackers. So I'm munching on crackers and Sprite for almost the entire flight and feel so much better with them in me.
So we get to the hotel, The Bellagio, and it's so gorgeous, the hotel, and the room, I wish I would have felt better so I could have enjoyed myself a little more, because this is VEGAS!!!! But I think to myself, "I have a little baby growing in me," so I feel okay, remembering this small factoid.
So Alan and I get ready to go to dinner and some steak place (can't remember the name), but I have one glass of red wine, which is permitted, don't get your panties all in a bunch now, doctors say red wine in moderation is perfectly fine. Besides, I thought to myself, "I'm sure women in Europe do it all the time." Of course, I'm not in Europe you say . . . . . anyway, the wine went down exceptionally smooth and was wonderful, as was dinner, although I couldn't finish all of it. Which will be the story of my life for the next few months and beyond, I'm sure of it. So, instead of going out and having drinks and walking around (like we normally would have during any other Vegas trip) we instead head back to our room, because I am SUPER-DE-DUPERTY tired, like you would not believe, again, story of my life for months to come.
So we get back to the room, get undressed from the beautiful dress and shoes I just had on, and only wore for about an hour and a half, just to get into a tank and my undies to lay down in bed. Alan sits in bed with his laptop and is scanning any and all 'baby' websites (he's so darned excited, the man can barely contain himself.) I'm laying in the bed 1/2 watching TV and listening to him as he reads me all these interesting little tidbits about what my body is going through, and what it WILL be going through in the next few months, it's pretty interesting and exciting. Plus, I have a partner that is super excited, so he wants to know EVERYTHING about what is happening in my body, to my body and how the baby is developing and all kinds of stuff, so that in itself is exciting too.
So I eventually fall asleep and wake up occasionally to find Alan still scanning the 'net for baby stuff. I fall back asleep and he's asleep as well, this time.
So we get up the next morning, eat breakfast, and walk around a bit. I am getting easily tired and want nothing more than to lay down and sleep. So we go to our room so I can nap before dinner and the show tonight.
Well, I wake up feeling famished and have to dress and get ready for din-din, we're having Italian tonight. Dinner is wonderful, and I'm satisfactorily stuffed, like a Thanksgiving day turkey. So much so, that it's hard to suck in whilst walking around in this new dress (which is super cute, if I do say so myself.) So onto the concert and we have super awesome seats (6 rows from the front!) Santana was completely amazing, he played so much good music, I would definately like to see him again. So again, after the concert, I was totally wiped out. We walk outside to grab a cab and the line is literally going around the building. This Towncar is passing right in front of us, so I stop and ask how much to take us back to The Bellagio, the price is good, so we hop in, bypassing all the people still in the taxi line. Thank goodness. Time to hit the hay, once again.
All in all, Vegas was fun, all things considered. I'm not sure Vegas will be the same for a long time to come.
September 11, 2009--Remembrance for a few reasons
But as for this post specifically, this one has special significance because, number one, it is September 11th and we all know what THAT means. Of course we all think back to 2001, and we think of where we were when all of the terrorist attacks happened and things like that. But for me, this day has a little more significance. Well, for one, I went to see my OB/Gyn today because I have missed my period (by at least a week). I'm usually pretty regular, so it is a bit peculiar, hmmm...... So I have a pregnancy test done, and 'lo and behold, I'M PREGNANT!!! I can't even believe it. I'm happy, yet, shocked, scared, anxious, worried, all kinds of things are being conjured up in my mind, much less my now completely hormonal body. Wow!! It's crazy too, because Alan and I had tried to have a baby girl a couple of years ago, and I didn't keep the baby, for whatever reason. Also, Alan and I haven't exactly tried NOT getting pregnant, I mean, I haven't even been on the pill for, damned near going on 6 years!!! And NOW it happens?? I'm about to be 40 in December and it happens now??
Anyway, after my doctor's appointment and the initial shock has left me, I drive over to Alan's work and text him to come outside. So he gets in the car and we chit chat for a minute about what his day has been like, I brought him a soda, and then, I tell him I have something to tell him. I don't know of any other way to say it, except to blurt it out, "you're going to be a daddy!!" He kinda just sits there for a second, not really any specific look on his face. But he's probably thinking, "what the heck are you talking about?" But a smile slowly starts to appear on his face, as I tell him where I had just come from and of course, "I'M PREGNANT, IT'S OFFICIAL!!" So of course, he's absolutely happy and hugs me and gives me a kiss, but I ask him not to say anything to the people at work, and he agrees. So that's when and how we found out we were preggers. So we'll see what this little pnut has in store for us. I'm sure we're in for an adventure, to say the least. And for now, that is her official name, "Pnut."
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Disneyworld 2009 Trip
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Disneyworld 2009
First Day of School 2009
Here they are, their first day of school 2009-2010. I now have a Junior, a Freshman and a 5th grader; gosh, I remember when I was a fifth grader and I remember how "responsible" I felt, even though I probably REALLY wasn't. But my little one seems so "young and naive." He's a momma's boy (which at times, I love, and others, I feel a little guilty about, because I feel like I've babied him too much.) Oh well, he's probably my last, so why not, right? I say my last, because my body says "no more," but Alan still has hope, so I guess we'll see. Anyway, back to the subject at hand, I get off on these tangents sometimes . . . . . .
The kids going back to school is bittersweet, of course. I love them being home, but a part of me is like "heck yeah!" I get my days back for me!!" Back to the schedules of school, church and lessons.
OD was a bit nervous going to school, because this year he is changing classes, he doesn't have a homeroom like years prior. He's a big boy now. I forgot to ask where they eat their lunches, hmmm, I'll have to ask later. But he has a whole new place they have to line up and go in with their Advisory Teacher. When I picked him up (which I now pick him up 45 minutes later than the other two,) I asked how his first day as a fifth grader went. He said, "it was okay, I found my classes, but I'm still confused of where I'm supposed to go for P.E." (I'm paraphrasing here, so bear with me on my language, or rather, OD's.) Anyway, I told him it would just take time to get into the routine of knowing where his classes were.
Joshie had his first day of high school. He tells Darian, "your friends act like I'm not even there!" I said, "well, were you being annoying? Maybe they were ignoring you because you were being an annoying little brother." He said, "no, I wasn't even talking at all, they just ignored me." I said, "well, just give them some time, they just don't know you, and when they do, they'll love you." How can you not love Joshie and his silly sense of humor, right? He's so darned smart, Alan and I just have to make sure we're on top of this boy, to make sure he's getting things done. We have faith and we know how smart Joshie is, he can do really, really well, when he wants to. He's just lazy, and we need to keep him out of that laziness funk.
Darian is now starting her Junior year, poor, poor girl. I worry about my girl sometimes. She hasn't done so well in school and I know it's hard for her, but she also needs to put forth more effort. I told her if she didn't pass all of her classes this year, she probably wasn't going to graduate with her class. I wasn't telling her to make her feel bad, but it's a fact, and I think she needs to know the gravity of the situation. This is the last ditch effort to get things on track. I'd hate to see her not graduate on time and with her class, but, well, I don't know. I guess it's not the end of the world, it's not like my daughter is sick with a major illness or anything. I love my daughter and want the best for her and want her to be happy and want her to graduate, don't get me wrong, but in the grand scheme of things, of life and death and God and everything, is it REALLY the end of the world if she doesn't? No. I would still love her and help her in whatever she wanted to do. Not every kid is a school kid, not every kid loves school and does well in it. That's just not Darian.
Anyway, here's to a good and hopefully successful school year!!!
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Bummer!!
Anyway, he has a book that he's been looking at, trying to read the notes, so hopefully, he can get a bit of a head start in that area.
The Terrorist
He is a Terrorist, because he has dug holes in our yard, dug up flowers, eaten my brand new (with the biggest and most beautiful flowers), Hibiscus plant that my honey bought me. Alan had just planted it in one of the flower pots near the doggie door, so of course, it's the first thing Petey sees when he goes out the door, right? I was out the next morning feeding the dogs and looked over at the Hibiscus plant and thought, "gosh, I wonder why Alan pruned this plant down so much? " Because I had seen Alan that afternoon with the clippers, clipping other plants, so I just assumed he had done it to the new Hibiscus plant too. I was already getting mad at Alan, because the plant looked ugly, it was waaay smaller than earlier, and just looked puny. But as I walked closer to the plant, I noticed that some of the branches were broken and there were leaves in the pot itself that looked really mangled. So of course, then, it hit me. Ugh!! I could have spanked Petey, but he was no where to be found.